Releasing Old Stale, and Negative Energy: The First Step Towards the Life You Desire – Part 1
“The consequences we experience in our lives are, in fact, good outcomes, even amidst pain and loss; you just need to want to see it... Change your beliefs, and it will upgrade your perceptions.”
In this post, I share thoughts intended to raise awareness about our power to create the lives we desire. I invite you to reflect on what it means to change how we perceive our past, particularly the beliefs we carry with us and the energy attached to them. For this reflection, I focus on past experiences or beliefs that carry negative energy. There's nothing inherently wrong with negative energy—it's a way our bodies communicate through pain. But why is it so important to reflect on this? What does it mean to release the old, stale, and negative energy by embracing actions like releasing, letting go, and forgiving?
These concepts and discussions stem from my personal experiences. My journey has led me to understand the past and release beliefs that no longer serve me. I learned to stop feeling that "I was no longer a good person if I chose not to interact with someone who, in my perception, intended to hurt me." This feeling, I believe, is rooted deep in everyone's heart when we hold onto pain.
It's essential to acknowledge that my perception is shaped by my beliefs—whether limiting or not—which consist of my thoughts, feelings, and emotions gathered throughout my life. These elements create who I am and influence how I see my reality. They ignite how I think and feel every day, thereby shaping how I create my experiences.
I have explored many therapeutic methods to reach where I am today, from those accepted in the scientific community, like talk therapy, to alternative therapies that work on the core of our energetic bodies.
In my view, energy work, although less recognized by science, will eventually become a cornerstone of our healing systems.
Through this journey, I realized that the act of forgiving, as I understood it, often felt incomplete when it came to releasing the old, stale, and negative energy within us. Allow me to explain.
I grew up in the Catholic faith, where I was taught that forgiving others would naturally lead to the disappearance of pain.
But this belief was challenged when I encountered deep pain in my heart—for example, the pain of broken trust. I found that simply forgiving others no longer worked, so I began seeking alternative ways to release the pain in my heart.
Parallel to this search, I started questioning what forgiveness truly means.
I wondered how people could genuinely release their pain by relying solely on the concept of "forgiving others." It often felt unfair that while some continually forgive, the perpetrators sometimes continue to hurt, always being forgiven.
Society, including religious teachings, often tells us that people who cause harm—whether physical or psychological—must be held accountable and face consequences. On a smaller scale, such as family conflicts, facing the truth of our actions can be a way to release pain. But when the person causing harm continues their behavior, we naturally seek justice or fairness. This often feels like an endless cycle of karmic debt, making us feel that no matter what happens, we must take responsibility for our own pain.
It’s essential to dig deeper and understand our role in creating our pain. There is a natural spiritual law where everyone must be responsible for their actions—right or wrong. This law implies that things will naturally fall into place, including our debts and credits, because we are all on the same journey of learning from our mistakes and evolving. While some harmful actions require intervention, I’ve come to believe that, on a smaller scale, wiser approaches often lead to a more prosperous future.
For many years, I misunderstood what it means to forgive. I thought forgiveness was about having the ability to forgive others for their wrongdoing out of compassion. While this concept is valid, it felt incomplete to me. Forgiving others seemed unfair when the abuse continued. So, I began using terms like "releasing" or "letting go" instead of forgiveness, as the latter felt tied to religious connotations that didn't fully resonate with me.
As I explored these concepts further, I realized that forgiving, releasing, and letting go are interconnected. For me, releasing and letting go became powerful tools on my healing journey. By deciding to release the pain and let go of what no longer served me, I began to heal. Let me explain this further by exploring the meanings of these words: to release, to let go, and to forgive.
To release, To let go, To forgive
Walking bare foot is a way of releasing the old and absorbing the new energy
The Cambridge Dictionary defines "release" as "to give freedom or free movement to someone or something," "to express a feeling that you have been trying not to show," or in a more physical sense, "to allow a substance to flow out from somewhere." Here, we can abstractly consider our energy as a substance, even if we can't see it with our naked eyes.
Similarly, "to let go" means "to stop holding something" or "to stop thinking about or being angry about the past or something that happened in the past." As Jackson Kiddard said, “Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.”
““Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let to”. ”
On the other hand, "to forgive," according to the Cambridge Dictionary, means "to completely stop blaming or being angry with someone for something they have done, or not punish them for something, and to stop thinking about it." The Oxford Learner's Dictionaries add that forgiveness includes "to stop feeling angry with yourself," which is crucial in empowering us to forgive both ourselves and others.
First, we must forgive ourselves, and then we can forgive others. This order is essential because when we forgive ourselves, we naturally extend that forgiveness to others.
Before continuing, let me make a point. When we feel disrespected, we feel angry. However, we are often criticized for feeling angry, leading us to believe that it's wrong to feel this way.
But anger is our inner self communicating with us, possibly urging us to leave an unhealthy interaction. When you feel negative energy, stop and reflect—it’s your body talking to you. It's your right to feel angry or any other negative emotion if you believe you're not being treated with the respect you deserve.
However, criticism from others and ourselves can cloud our vision, preventing us from recognizing that our inner self may be telling us to take action to stop what's hurting us and forgive ourselves for allowing it to happen.
When you reflect and act upon this, you naturally begin to show love to yourself. And when we forgive and love ourselves first, it becomes easier to forgive and love others.
This journey has been incredibly powerful for me because it helped me take ownership of my mistakes and responsibilities, allowing me to stop interactions that hurt me. But this realization comes with consequences.
I genuinely believe that the consequences we face in life are, in fact, good outcomes—at least, that has been my experience. If you reflect on what you’ve learned from your experiences, you’ll see that there is always something good that comes out of a storm.
Therefore, I believe that forgiveness should be more than just a religious or spiritual practice. However, once you understand its power, you naturally become more spiritual. I also believe that the concept of forgiveness has been relevant for as long as humans have existed.
We are all on a long journey to understanding the power of transforming the energy we carry within us. Some might say that releasing or letting go has the same outcome as forgiveness, but the meaning behind each step may vary for some because of our free will.
For some, letting go means breaking the connection with the perpetrator, sometimes without reflecting on our responsibility, and that’s okay. For others, it means recognizing our role in the interaction through our awareness, empowering us to take responsibility and shape our future.
No matter the terminology, there are many methods to achieve the state of releasing, forgiving, and letting go of the pain in your heart. To me, forgiving, releasing, or letting go means transforming or transmuting old, stale, and negative energy stored in our bodies that we no longer desire.
This process begins with becoming aware of the thoughts that keep old energy within us and deciding to let it go. By allowing the past to remain in the past and taking the lessons learned with us (for example, never allowing anyone to undermine you), we can transmute, transform, and evolve. We release the thoughts that brought us these interactions and consciously aim for better connections moving forward.
The importance and benefits of forgiving or letting go of old, stale, and negative energy are immeasurable; you heal yourself from what unsettles you. By seeking answers, you become aware of your pain and find the courage to do something about it.
The journey involves getting to know yourself. Continuing to suffer is our fault. You might say, "I grew up without a voice, so I have difficulty setting boundaries." While your past shaped who you are today, it’s your responsibility to stop these patterns now.
However, the journey can be particularly challenging when you’ve spent years with a misconception of what forgiveness truly means. Looking back, I wonder how different my path might have been if I had understood the real meaning of forgiveness earlier in my life.
What if I had been able to listen to my heart without the confusion and noise of half-truths? My heart might have told me to walk away from relationships that were not serving me. But we are not here to dwell on regrets; we are here to learn and be grateful. I am thankful for my pain because it led me on this journey of self-discovery and self-love.
I had to endure pain to arrive at where I am now. I kept forgiving, even though I wasn’t truly happy. I continued to engage in interactions that hurt me repeatedly until I realized that I was responsible for allowing them to happen. This is why it’s crucial to reflect on our past and release it—so we can discover our power to stop repeating harmful patterns. These patterns of interacting with certain people or events stem from childhood beliefs imprinted in our subconscious minds.
The good news is that awareness changes everything. Forgiving others is just one part of the process. The real magic happens when we forgive ourselves—it can do wonders for our hearts. I finally understood this. I realized that I was interacting with certain people because my thoughts vibrated on the same frequency as theirs, creating a reality that corroborated these connections. For instance, people pleasers naturally connect with those who want to receive.
But for a healthy, balanced relationship, there must be a two-way street: giving and receiving should be mutual. If there’s no balance, both parties are at fault.
This realization empowered me. If I change the way I think, I can change my beliefs. By changing my beliefs, I am no longer a victim. When I understood this, I forgave myself for holding onto the thoughts that led me into those situations. I became naturally grateful for my past because it awakened me to the empowering moment when I could release a limiting belief each time a challenge arose. I released the thoughts that created emotions I no longer wanted to experience.
This incredible journey led me to connect with my inner self and listen to my intuition. Previously, my energy was aligned with half-true beliefs that I never questioned. I looked at life from a narrow perspective, feeling that the concept of forgiveness, as I understood it, didn’t resonate with my heart. I realized how much misunderstanding I carried about an act that is so essential in our daily lives.
I learned that forgiveness is a powerful resource we are born with. It’s a skill that can be developed in many ways, one of which is choosing to become aware and live in that awareness—living in the present moment and being fully conscious of what’s happening around you. It may seem challenging at first, like any new habit, but once you experience its benefits, there’s no turning back.
I am grateful to everyone who has hurt me in the past, whether they knew it or not, and to those who may hurt me based on my current perceptions.
We are continually expanding. Without these experiences, I would never have learned to release old energy, gained the understanding I have now, or developed the skills in various energy techniques. Most importantly, I’ve learned to love myself.
These painful lessons prompted me to say, "Enough, no more. I love you, but I will no longer accept feeling disrespected." You see, I wasn’t a victim; I was simply unaware of the power I have within me.